"Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag.She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
As for the answer, my personal belief of what makes a good significant other in general, I believe that it lies in another question. What makes a good catholic?
1. They need to have a positive understanding of the other person. Just as we need to have a positive understanding of what our Lord Jesus Christ is telling us. 2. They must be committed to your family and friends. As catholics, we have a very large love for the community known as our church. As a boyfriend he must be as in love with your family as you are. 3. They must have a sacramental outlook on life. As catholics, of course we go through the sacraments as we continue our growth in our faith, and as a significant other they must live with the same idea. This begins with the conviction that God reaches out to us and we respond through the ordinary and everyday of life, through the created order, through our relationships, through all our good efforts and the experiences that come our way. Last but not least, 4. In order to become a good significant other you must put God first in your relationship. Just like in our faith, God must always be first in any relationship we have. Whether that’s family, friends, or significant other.
hey matt. you're a badass white guy. but i know you have a softy side. you know, you can be one of those sappy type loevs lowkey. i know it. so right now, which girl is that kryptonite? who is your weakness? <3 ;) hahahahahaha
HAHAHAHA i’m secretly a big softy…she’s an AMAZING women! Her faith, smile, sense of humor and her love for all are what attracted her to me. I would love to be closer to her without question. I pray to God to help me with this everyday. :)
Jerry sloan of the nba Utah Jazz expected to announce he is resigning and retiring from the team effective immediately. He is by far the longest tenured coach in any sport, and I can personally say he will be missed from the league. Say it ain’t so Jerry!
“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”—Luke 6: 37-38